How I learned empathy the hard way — I used to be kind of a shitty person. Back in college and in my early twenties, I failed to deal with a lot of internalized misogyny, ableism, classism, and some inadvertent racism that came from a very white, very upper-middle-class suburban upbringing just riddled with privilege. I didn’t see anything wrong with my low-key callousness. I was, in…